How do you want to be remembered?

Is it simple to forgive? 

When I worked in hospice I attended many funerals and spoke to many families about their loved ones.

Some were positive conversations, and some were the harsh realities that it’s not so easy to forget what happened in the past. 

The simple answer is to forgive them and forgive yourself. 

But how?

How do you forgive other people and move on with your life?

As with any funeral, there are the anticipated moments when family and friends get up to share their memories about the deceased. 

The coveted “expressions” is what this  portion of the funeral is usually called.

People are given 2-5 minutes to talk say a few words and let other people know how they felt about the deceased person. 

I have never seen a funeral where people talked badly about the deceased person. 

Even if they had disagreements before, the person most likely will not bad mouth them. 

We all know that people say what they want to behind closed doors when they get home; however, they will behave themselves at the funeral.

Most of the time family will either show up and participate in the services or stay at home if they can not handle the grief or hold a grudge towards the person. 

“Auntie so and so was a good cook and she fed everybody.

She had a heart of gold,” example of what may be said during expressions.  

What will they say about you after you die? 

Poetic expressions that comfort and have everyone crying tears of joy.

Praise worthy expressions that lift everyone up out of their sorrow. 

Forgive them and forgive yourself.

Create beautiful moments that the latter years are better than before.

 

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