It’s 5pm, final phone call for the day and almost time to put the kids to bed.  Of course, all hell breaks loose. Everyone is pulling your strings.  Little ones are pulling on you to change their diaper, asking for food to eat, and your boo/hubby waiting for the some snuggle time.  What’s a girl to do when you have so many balls juggling in air?

On top of that your 9-5 (if you still have one), minding your business, and (hey) friendship(s).  With all that stress and overwhelm, it’s no wonder you are overweight and sleep deprived.  For real, saying this in love – women have too many obligations today.  Guess what though?  Everything happens when you say yes to yourself.

All hell breaks loose.  The kids get sick.  Boo/Hubby and friends feels neglected.  Deadlines come too fast.  Guilt starts to creep up on you.  Guilt about taking care of everyone else accept yourself.

It feels like you need a pause button to take a break from all the madness. Pause all the negative chatter and guilt that tends to take over.  Women face so much pressure in society, work, and social relationships to live up to a certain standard that we tend to lose ourselves in the drama. Did you know that Black women face a higher percentage of stress related health conditions than any other race of women in the United States?

We carry stress in our hips and thighs, don’t let these video vixens fool you.  The average Black woman has a stereotypical distorted view based on the hip hop video queens, etc.  I’m not knocking their hustle but the reality is that every day Black women are facing extreme amounts of stress.  

So, how do you handle the juggling act?

  1. Delegate some things on your plate or hire help.  There is nothing wrong with hiring a cleaning person once or twice a month.  
  2. Ask a family member or friends for help.  Can you ask someone you trust for help babysitting while you take a bubble bath or ask for help with a task in your business or work? Do you need to hire someone to help with administrative work like checking emails or managing your social media?
  3. Have a conversation with your partner or hubby about your feelings.  Women are natural at talking about their feelings but this is sometimes overlooked because of the Superwoman syndrome  – wanting to be independent. 
  4. Take your PTO time from work to get a break!  Use it or lose it. Most PTO time does not carry over. Why not use this time to breathe or take a vacation and drop some of those balls juggling in the air.

The decision is yours.   What will you determine to happen next?

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